r after a break up. You can not move on when you are trying to get even. Discovering the real root cause of your anger is extremely important. Your own self esteem or the lack of it might be one of the root causes of the breakup.
How can you get your relationship to rebound back to where it was? Improving your self image by being strong. The worst thing you could do is to come off as being desperate. If they sense this, you will not stand a chance in getting them back. Seeking revenge can be a sign of having no confidence. They will not want you if you exhibit a lack of confidence. So replace your revenge with forgiveness. Yes, forgiveness is a sign of strength and it will rid you of the desperate feelings. Do not hassle them or even worse stalk them. Let your ex think that you have moved on just fine without them, by acting strong through forgiveness. When you’ve moved on, your ex will realize that they have not.
Create some distance by closing off most communication, and let him or her realize how important your relationship really is. If your ex does want to get back with you, playing hard to get, with some self control, is your best strategy.
By forgiving your ex you will exhibit your own flexibility. Refrain from being demanding with your ex, Improvement in your listening skills can be very important when you both start talking again
Be the extrovert! This is no time for you to be a recluse. Call your friends and get on the road. Develop a social network. Learn a new skill in a social environment. Do something you have never done before in a social setting. This will be great therapy for you and it will raise you self confidence immeasurably
Make some changes. Relationship healing is a two way street. Identify some of your habits that created the conflict in the first place and immediately take corrective action.
