We have all been in Bad
Relationships of some sort at some times in our lives. I’m starting to believe if you
don’t know what bad
relationships are you definitely won’t know what good ones are either.
To start a
relationship has to be harmonious. A
relationship that isn’t working involves constant frustration.
Relationships with the wrong person are always easy to find but impossible to maintain. In bad
relationships
one person ties their emotions to another who is unavailable for
whatever reason. The reason for the unavailability the could range from
not wanting a commitment, to being with someone else, to incapable of
giving of ones self you name it. These are emotionally torturous in
nature.
There is a whole other level of terrible
relationships involve physical abuse as well. Most of the physically abusive
relationships start out with emotional abuse first so beware.
In
relationships where there is no compatibility one party never gets what they really need out of a
relationship . When one is left wanting in a
relationship
they can feel neglect and devastated esteem. This lays the ground work
for bad hurt that it prevents the hurt individual from moving on in
their lives and careers from the culprit. Bad
relationships are time bombs for loneliness, rage and despair.
The first indicator in a no good
relationship
is; two people involved on totally different wave lengths from each
other. They have little in common, there is no real communication and
the culprit doesn’t enjoy the victims company. This is why synastry of
the body mind and spirit is so important for a
relationship to work. Synastry is an astrological term where two peoples charts are compared for aspects of commonality are analyzed.
There is medical evidence in studies done now to show that bad
relationships
help destroy our physical health as well. The term broken-hearted isn’t
far fetched. There have been CT/CAT scans done of people in such
relationships
and it has shown hardening of the arteries and other arterial damage.
There was a study presented at the American Psychosomatic Society to
illustrate the findings. There were also studies done in Italy showing
how it affects the immune system, weakening that as well. The findings
were printed in the journal Psychosomatic Medicine. The study showed
women who have been in abusive or one sided
relationships had their systems killer cells at a significantly lower level of immune level efficiency than women who were not.
The problem is that despite the pain both mentally and physically in
these type of interactions cause people remain in them. They find
themselves unable to leave, this is when you need to examine if this
pattern of behavior is addictive for you.
The main factors that keep you stuck bad
relationships is the societal factors we are hit with daily such as love lasts a lifetime, if you can’t keep a
relationship
you are an emotional failure, being alone is terrible, and how can I
hurt someone who loves me. Top that off with low esteem issues such as; I
am not attractive enough, I’m not interesting enough and if I work hard
enough to change and be better they will stay. If you suffer from any
of these views and are in a one-sided
relationship
where your needs are not being met you need to have an honest look at
yourself and make some changes. Feeling hurt or inadequate all the time
by the other party is an indication that something is wrong with your
situation.
